I’m reading this great book with a good friend of mine. We’re book-clubbing it so to speak, that is, in today’s modern form of book-club where we read a chapter a day (ultra short chapters by the way) and then we text each other sometime during the day with our thoughts, reactions, questions, etc.
The book is called “Discovering Your Soul Signature” by Penache Desai. Awesome, awesome read.
So yesterday’s chapter, or lesson, was Day 23 entitled “Unfolding” and it hit me deeply and thought it may resonate with you too.
Here’s where it reached out and grabbed me first:
Penache writes: “What if I were to tell you that you can’t mess up this thing called life?”
I’m thinking: really, come on now, I’ve already messed things up in my life…many, many, MANY times, how can this be?
Within a page, the clever author pulls me back with this thought and question:
Clients I have the privilege to work with routinely have within their set of goals to “get healthier.” As their Eating Behavior Coach, I teach them how to be more specific and narrowly define it for themselves based on the lifestyle they’re seeking. This way, they will know once they’ve arrived and achieved their goal.
This process of getting specific and defining “getting healthier” get really interesting. Uncovering what it uniquely means for an individual is almost always an eye opening and soul exposing exercise.
So play along with me right now. STOP and think of how you define “getting healthier.” Be specific and use identifiable measures and terms in your definition.
Got it summed up in your mind? Good. Read on.
Were any of these included in your definition:
1. Unshakable feeling of comfort and confidence in your own skin
Something’s been gnawing at me lately and for a bit of time, I wasn’t actually aware of what was really going on, but now I am. By sharing my moment of awareness and how I’m choosing to respond to it, I’m hoping today’s blog helps you too.
So here goes…
As the weather has gotten warmer the last couple months, I’ve been wearing fewer sleeveless shirts. If I did wear a sleeveless shirt, I wore a shrug or wrap over it. The a/c is oppressive in some places so having a little cover up made sense. Or did it?
Don’t get me wrong, I love a good shrug or wrap…kinda my thing and definitely staples in my wardrobe. However, it turns out my recent choices weren’t purely fashion driven.
Here’s how I know. I was in a clothing store two weeks ago when I was perusing a section with really cute summer shirts – all sleeveless. I started to think what I could wear over them and THAT’S WHEN IT HIT ME! I was in body shame,...
I offer a free 20-minute consultation, by phone, to new clients who are interested in my Eating Behavior Coaching services if they want to be sure my services are aligned with what they're looking to achieve regarding their health and wellness goals.
Lately, the most common inquiry is about wanting a nutritionist to help them eat better, lose weight and/or build muscle and get fit. And nearly all have stated they've been to a nutritionist before and/or have gone through traditional style diet programs with a nutritionist component.
Hmmm....as I scratch my head
Of course I let them know I am not a licensed nutritionist, but that my approach often significantly improves their relationship with food, weight and body image and thus their overall health and life. And here's the kicker, what they learn translates into long-term results and can be modified to match their evolving life and age, all without restrictive meal plans and good food/bad food lists!
My coaching approach is meant...
Of the hundreds of images, quotes and information we see on a daily basis, some of them stop you in your tracks right?
You have one of those “whoa….damn…hold up” kinda moments. The message is so powerful, it wakes you up from the normalcy of your day, and begs you to listen.
I had that kind of moment when I saw this image with these powerful words.
It was as though it was written just for me and delivered when I would see it at just the right time for it to land deep in my heart.
It hit me H-A-R-D because it woke me up to the realization that I have spent so much wasted energy in my lifetime trying to get others to understand me. What’s worse, is when I’m trying to convince myself that what I’m thinking, feeling or doing makes good logical sense.
It can get pretty exhausting working that hard instead of simply being me.
When I go into explain-mode, it robs me of the energy I could be using to impact someone...
When do you know if you’re inspired or motivated? And why should you care?
There’s a BIG difference in the two, that’s why.
Knowing the difference can be a liberating realization because if what you’re striving for is being sought through you being motivated, you have a very low chance of actually reaching your goal or end target.
Motivation wanes and you can spot it easily when you break down why you’re doing something: you “should” do this.
When motivated by should, (by example: I should work out more; or I should volunteer and give back; or I should be more patient with my co-workers that drive me nuts, etc. ), you also draw out your inner rebel, so it becomes in inner battle rather than something you genuinely desire.
You give up rather easily and with it comes the long list of reasons to blame for your lack of success - never actually recognizing it wasn't something you were deeply inspired to attain in the first place.
As I work with more and more clients who have unwanted, dysfunctional and downright torturous eating habits that are robbing them of living a life with ease, enjoying mind-body health and experiencing the richness it can bring, it reinforces what I deeply know to be true:
Without unshakable self-acceptance throughout every phase of your life, you will always block your ability achieve what you want most in life.
Self-acceptance is the STARTING PLACE, not the destination.
Some say self-sabotage, lack of willpower, or fear of the unknown is what ultimately blocks us from reaching our goals, retraining our minds and making the transformational lifestyle changes that would lead us to our happy & healthy place.
But it isn’t any of these based on my experience. These are just examples of the excuses we tell ourselves.
Instead there is a severe drought going on in our world; a massive pit of self-loathing and focus on what’s wrong and needs fixing rather...