I'm Rusti Quarles
I'm committed to helping you unlearn the things that have kept you unhappy and frustrated for too long. Replacing those things with a system that continuously leads you to your unique healthy & happy sweet spot.
Getting healthier and being happy looks different for everyone. It's time to stop being a square peg trying to force your way into a round hole.
Are you ready to find your way?
I'd be honored to work with you and teach you how!
Having struggled with my relationship with food, weight, body image, not to mention people-pleasing, workaholism and perfectionism most of my life, I have both personal experience with all of those struggles and certifications, training and ongoing education in each area.
If we go back 10 years ago, I was reflecting on my life. I’d spent my entire childhoold as a very active, but fat athlete. I was put on my first diet when I was 10 and forced weekly weigh-in’s with the threats of food restriction and forced exercise if I didn’t lose weight (this caused me to become bulimic btw; the shame I carried for so many years was unimaginable); then spent my 20's and most of my 30's doing everything doctors, nutritionists, counselors, personal trainers, diet experts, even a hypnotist, etc. told me to do to lose weight and “get healthy” (note: excess weight and uncontrolled stress were my only health conditions btw). And yet, with all my might and putting forth tremendous effort, the reverse was happening.
Things were only getting worse!
Each failed diet attempt led to more feelings of hopelessness and rebound weight gain.
OMG how I despise diets - they don't work! I mean, have you ever wondered why there's never a reunion show of the Biggest Loser? Hmmm, maybe because they didn’t keep the weight off?
And counting calories, puh-leeeze! Don’t get me started on what garbage that advice was and is! The number of years I spent counting, measuring, portioning thinking all food was the same as long as I didn’t go over a certain calorie count.
I digress…let’s get back to my mid-30’s. I watched my weight balloon to 340 lbs (I’m 5’5” btw) and I feared diabetes and living crappy life being limited in what I could do and experience because of my weight...so I decided to go on the biggest and final diet of my life by having gastric bypass surgery in Aug. 2008.
Making the decision to permanently alter my body through surgery wasn’t easy, but it was worth it for me. I don’t regret it. It’s the biggest and best gift I ever gave myself and it has led me to where I am today. Lots of lessons learned and from my darkest dieting days through what I learned about weight loss and weight maintenance post surgery are miraculous gifts.
It’s important to tell you that even as I was voluntarily putting myself through weightloss surgery (I’d never even spent a night in a hospital!), my inner voice knew the root cause of my weight problem was the food but it wasn’t the food, you know?
I kept thinking, I’m a highly successful person who has achieved nearly everything I’ve ever set my mind to achieving, but yet this one thing, food/weight, I can’t get a handle on it. I couldn’t figure it out on my own. There had to be something more to it. What was I missing?
To be smart, successful in every other area of life, popular with lots of loving friends, a classic overachiever…yet I couldn't control my weight. It was nothing short of maddening!
Fortunately, I was willing to ask for help. I was done trying to captain the ship myself. Something deep within me knew there were unresolved hurts, unmet needs and unhealthy and self-sabotaging beliefs that were driving me to use food as my solution.
Post gastric bypass surgery, I decided to throw the kitchen sink at figuring it all out. So I found a counselor to work with. I started journaling. I joined a gym and got a personal trainer. I worked with a mentor. I became willing to experiment with new ways of doing things.
It worked, or so I thought. Once I lost the weight, life was great. My career was reaching new levels of success, I was making amazing money, traveling the world, finding love and more. Yet I still struggled with my inner self. The feelings of doubt plagued me. I worried I was a fraud and one day I’d be found out. My bulimic ways would even show up from time to time. I was scared.
So I put more of my effort into my career and ratcheted up my workaholism. That didn’t turn out so well. Within 4 years of my gastric bypass surgery I was burned out. Newly married with a wonderful life ahead of me, I couldn’t take the pressure anymore. I walked away from my lucrative career in health insurance consulting and paused.
A couple years prior to my burn out, I had ran across a blog article written by Marc David of The Institute for the Psychology of Eating. I can’t even remember what the article was but it touched me in the most profound way. I recall sending the article to my then-fiance and saying “If I ever leave my company, I think I’ll become a Health Coach using the teachings I’ve read about here in this article. For once I understand that I’m not broken and I don’t need fixing!”
I genuinely cry each time I think back to that moment. Because I knew then, 2 years before I burned out in my corporate career, that I was drowning and all that I had worked so hard to achieve with my weight and health was slipping away.
It took two more very difficult and painful years for me to finally say uncle.
I went through The Institute for Psychology of Eating training and became certified. And from that point on, I worked on healing my harmful thought patterns and self-sabotaging beliefs. I broke free from the pain I once felt when I thought I was broken and unworthy.
I’m at peace with myself.
I trust my body.
I love myself without conditions as to what I eat, how much I weigh, how others perceive me.
I am comfortable in my own skin.
I’m grateful for each moment of each day.
Now it's YOUR turn...
Do you dream of finally being comfortable in your own skin and participate in life as your true self?
The good news is, there is a sustainable way out of your struggle-filled way of life.
With my Health Coaching, you can heal your relationship food, weight, self-worth and body image.
You’re not broken and you don’t need fixing, you just need better information and real solutions that last long-term!
WARNING: doing the inner work to transform your beliefs, values and habits as it relates to food, weight, self-worth and body image, is some of the most difficult work you’ll ever do, but absolutely the most rewarding work of a your life.
It’s the difference of living an unfulfilled, struggle-based life vs. being at-ease with yourself and having an unshakable knowing you’re ok just as you are; you know you can get through every storm life throws at you and not fall backwards.
Using masterful listening skills, Coach RustiQ takes will take what she learns about your struggles, your lifestyle and current set of beliefs to then use it to guide you to Unlock Your Healthy Self.
Yes, YOU have all have the answers – they are just lying dormant within you, waiting to be unlocked!
In our coaching work together, you’ll be given tangible action steps and asked to experiment with new habits that will transform your life forever.
This Can Be Your Reality
I’ve received priceless gifts from coming through the storms of my darkest days.
And I know that prioritizing my health so that I can live the quality of life I want is a journey filled with ups and downs, twists and turns, and I will make plenty of mistakes and get derailed sometimes.
This I know for sure, the derailment is always temporary. True success lies in my ability to stay willing to begin again and to shorten the duration more and more of the period of time I get off track.
Because I love and accepting myself unconditionally, I trust myself to do whatever it takes to prioritize my health and self-care habits.
Unconditionally loving oneself is the hardest work I’ve ever done, but profoundly the most rewarding.
The biggest cherry on top to my story is that now, as a Health Coach, I’m able to pay my gift forward. To help others to find their healthy & happy sweet spot.